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THE Amicable Divorce Expert, Judith Weigle, shares her insights and experiences in divorce mediation and communication, helping thousands of couples accomplish the near impossible, amicable divorces.
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18 hours ago
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you will learn the following:
- How to identify if you are or were held hostage in your marriage.
- How to identify a cult-like mentality.
- How you can be seduced by someone who wants to control you.
- What seduction is like, and why it begins the process of control.
- How you become a slave to your spouse in your relationship.
- Neither education nor intelligence have anything to do with being seduced and held hostage in the relationship.
- What love bombing is and how it is part of the seduction process to establish the hostage relationship.
- How and when we give our power away to someone else.
- Are you making choices against your own best interests, and compromising your values?
- If you’re in a cult-like relationship questioning the other person is not possible.
- Extricating yourself from a cult-like marriage or divorce.
- Own your story and drop your shame.
#hostage #cult #relationshiphostage #lovebombing #seduction #control #selfexpression #budget #allowmance #money #jointbankaccount #slave #values #heldhostage #marriage #divorce #compromise #higherlifepurpose #author #cultmember #relationship #DalaiLama #doubt #selfexploration #selfdoubt #vulnerable #courage #shame #lifechoices #survival #failure @DalaiLama @KellyThiel
Biography
Kelly Thiel, author of Unapologetically Glorious, and featured in the documentary series “Seduced” speaks on her experience as part of a cult, how it began and how it ended. Kelly is an accomplished voice actress, author, speaker, consultant, and survivor of the notorious NXIVM cult. Kelly speaks around the world about her personal journey on conquering her own trauma to, in turn, help men and women facing similar adversaties or traumas to conquer their own and rediscover themselves.
IG: @TheKellyThiel
Wednesday May 31, 2023
Wednesday May 31, 2023
In this 2023 episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, you will learn the following:
Trust is a concern in every relationship. From the trust we place in our restaurant takeout orders being correct, to the trust we place in our children when they’re not in our care, to the trust we place in our medical professionals, the clergy, to the huge trust we place in our spouses to always behave in a way that is respectful, caring, and protective of us.
When our trust is broken in any of our important relationships, we’re crushed. Our whole emotional and physical systems quiver. We are emotionally off-balance. We are no longer comfortable in those relationships.
Now divorce is imminent. And trust is on the line. We second-guess ourselves because we no longer trust our decision-making. All sorts of questions run through our minds: “Did we really know the person we married? Did we miss clues that should have made us suspicious? Was it something I did and didn’t realize it was causing a problem?” Or, if there was no event that broke the marriage, just two people growing apart, distrust still creeps in because divorce is generally a foreign environment, a language filled with words we don’t typically use, and we have to make really important decisions about money, co-parenting, and living as single people again. Fear rears its ugly head and distrust is the new emotion.
Trust can take on a whole new meaning in our lives if we start with trusting ourselves to be able to deal with the divorce, the future, and a new life. Life is full of challenges, and divorce is one of them. We can get through any challenge if we find a support system of professionals who can put fear and distrust in its place, and help create a foundation in us to tap into our inner strength and resilience, and respond to the decision-making in divorce in an affirmative, focused, honest way.
We are so much stronger than we give ourselves credit for. We may need the help of a divorce coach or a therapist to bring that resilience forward, but it’s there in every one of us.
If your marriage is ending simply because you’ve both grown apart, distrust still makes its way into your brains because you are no longer working as a team, a unit moving forward together. You are now two individuals who are dividing your stuff, expensive stuff, stuff that was accumulated over quite a few years. You’re not used to this dynamic. The brain goes into protective mode, fight or flight, and you no longer trust each other, even though neither of you have done anything to breach trust.
In this case, remember, you are the same good people you have been. No need to distrust one another. But definitely a time to assert the personal power you have and be vocal, be supportive of yourself, be kind and generous, but be mindful that you are both equally scared, regardless of the posturing of the other spouse. Everyone is scared. No one is secure in divorce.
Trust in yourself will allow you to trust someone else again.
#trust #honesty #divorce #podcast #relationships #communication #fear #distrust #marriage #adultery #infidelity #emotion
Wednesday May 24, 2023
Wednesday May 24, 2023
Divorce is a series of decisions. Starting with the emotional tone of the divorce: Are you filing while you’re angry and wanting to hurt your spouse, or do you look at your divorce as a necessary life change that can help both you and your spouse to grow better? It’s never a good idea to start the filing until you’ve calmed down, gone through the divorce grief stages, maybe, possibly, hopefully forgiven yourself and/or your spouse.
The centerpiece to all of the decisions in a divorce is honesty. When both spouses can talk before filing and sort out their feelings honestly, the settlement will be so much easier. It still may take some negotiating, but the conversation will be easier because the emotions of the divorce have been settled. It’s those unresolved emotions that affect the tone of the divorce, the litigious extent of the divorce, and the financial cost of the divorce.
A more correct reality of the marriage and why it has to conclude unfolds in a heartfelt conversation to end the marriage. Blame is stripped away. Anger subsides, forgiveness and understanding move into our hearts when we can openly, honestly, and without blame or justification for past actions and decisions, simply speak from each spouse’s perspective. Everyone has their own perspective on the meaning and purpose of events that shape our lives; and that perspective must be spoken and accepted. People can look at one event and process it differently.
The important conversation may come at different points in the settling of the emotional part of the divorce. It may not come in the very first conversation. It may come after several conversations, but when it does come, it will change the trajectory of the divorce, and the way each spouse thinks of each other and behaves towards each other going forward.
It’s crucial that the divorce is used to grow. Growing in a way that allows for more self-awareness so that the next relationship fulfills people in a more specific way. Or if no other relationship is sought, then let it be growth that simply reveals parts of oneself that help in the overall journey in this life.
#emotionalintelligence #communication #amicable #amicabledivorce #forgiveness #honesty #emotionaldivorce #anger #blame #grief #personalgrowth #growth #podcast #divorcepodcast #conversation
Wednesday May 17, 2023
Wednesday May 17, 2023
In this 2023 episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you will learn the following:
- How to detect financial abuse in the marriage
- What to do with financial abuse in the divorce
- Emotional Abuse and Money
- Physical Abuse and Money
- How to pay your attorney with no access to money
- Court order for legal fees
- Transparency in declaring assets
- What Forensic Accountants do
- Marital Estate Chart
- When litigation is needed
- The importance of reviewing financial documents for each transaction
- When to hire a larger firm or a sole practitioner
- How to handle the fear of asking for a divorce in an abusive marriage
- The importance of having a therapist or divorce coach as a support system
- Order of Protection for physical abuse
- How and when to serve the Petition for divorce on the abusive spouse
#financialabuse #jointbankaccounts #creditcards #allowance #physicalabuse #emotionalabuse #marriage #divorce #breadwinner #finances #wageearner #control #accesstomoney #childcare #taxreturns #taxfiling #financialpressure #mindset #finacialmindset #dishonesty #budgeting #budget #financiallydisadvantagedspouse #initialretainer #equality #legalrights #legalfees #court #incarceration #Judge’sorders #assets #transparency #forensicaccountant #fear
@LisaZeiderman
Biography of Lisa Zeiderman, Esq.
Lisa Zeiderman is Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, based in New York. A matrimonial attorney, CFL and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, she regularly handles complex financial and custody divorce matters, as well as pre- and post-nuptial agreements for high-net-worth individuals.
In addition to authoring a well-read blog on Psychology Today, “Legal Matters: Understanding Mental Health Issues as They Apply to Divorce and Child Custody,” Ms. Zeiderman is regularly published in Financial Advisor Magazine, the New York Law Journal, and Forbes. She is also regularly interviewed on issues ranging from financial empowerment to complex tax issues and child custody, and has been featured in a host of media from The Wall Street Journal to Kiplinger’s, as well as on a multitude of podcasts.
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Wednesday May 10, 2023
Wednesday May 10, 2023
In this 2023 episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, you will learn the following:
- Living longer lives makes it harder to grow old together
- Women initiate divorce more than me
- Different reasons why people file for divorce after a long-term marriage
- Women’s income will decrease by 40% in her 60’s, and men by 23%
- Focus on using a financial expert to help split a pension properly
- #1 mistake women make: thinking they have to keep the family home
- How to budget for the future
- Divorce can provide an opportunity to live the life you’ve always wanted to live
- Identifying Needs vs Wants in financial planning
- Establish financial safety nets before filing for divorce
- The importance of running 3 credit reports in preparation for divorce
- Desired Lifestyle vs Available Income
- When to take Social Security. How to determine social security. How to equalize social security for both spouses.
- Emotional Money Block and Your Money Story
- How do your values align with your relationship to money?
- Long-term care for women
#women #money #educate #financial #divorce #greydivorce #income #longtermmarriage #longtermcare #lifeinsurance #annuity #budget #creditreport #socialsecurity #moneyblock #emotionalmoneyblock #selfworth #values #lifestyle #financialplanning #women #pension #financialsafetynet #podcast #2023 #episode #financialcoach #CPA @LindaLingo
Linda Lingo is an authority on women building wealth. Her successful 35-year career in corporate America and her 10 years as a Financial Advisor has given her practical experience, radical knowledge and a deep understanding of the best ways to manage money for the modern-day woman.
Linda has served as the treasurer of The Women’s Fund, Assertive Women Entrepreneurs and Women of Vision. She has been active in Soroptimist International, and Girls Inc. She also supports women-owned businesses as an Activator with SheEO, and is active in the National Cinderella to CEO Awards Program.
Linda Lingo, Financial Coach & CPA
530-710-8301
Wednesday May 03, 2023
Wednesday May 03, 2023
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast you will learn:
- Age of Children
- Polarity of Parenting Styles
- Conflict with Ex-spouse
- Over-attachment of Non-custodial parent to child
- Over-attachment of biological parent to child
- There are more Blended Families than First Families.
- Co-habitation rates are soaring, making blended families hard to track.
- When single parents start dating, step-family dynamics start at this point.
- Children grieve the loss of the family, just like parents grieve the loss of the marriage.
- Family Mission Statement
#stepparent #stepparentcoach #blendedfamilies #exspouse #childsupport #cohabitation #dating #noncustodialparent #custodialparent #parentingstyles #author #biologicalparent #conflict #parentalalienation #familymissionstatements #consequences #rules #punishment #siblingrivalry #attachment #overattachment @JudyGraybill
Judy Graybill: links, contact info, and bio
free mini e-book, The 5 Biggest Risks of Conflict in Blended Families: https://tinyurl.com/5BlendedFamilyRisks
FB group for women in stepfamilies: https://tinyurl.com/TheWholeisticStepfamily
website: https://judygraybill.com
email: hello@judygraybill.com
Instagram: @judy.m.graybill
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/judygraybill
LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/judygraybill/
MeWe: https://mewe.com/i/judymgraybill
As a Relationship Healer and Certified Stepfamily Coach, Judy Graybill is skilled at identifying where couples get stuck. She helps them develop the mindset, strategy, and action plan to establish long-term harmony, deeper intimacy, and a stronger partnership. She’s also speaks, writes, facilitates in-person workshops, and is co-founder of the group, The Wholistic Stepfamily. Get details and free resources at www.JudyGraybill.com.
Wednesday Apr 26, 2023
Wednesday Apr 26, 2023
In this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, you will learn the following:
- What a Prenup is
- What makes a prenup good or bad
- The requirement to know the laws of your state before giving up marital rights in the prenup
- Why some people want prenups
- Why some people agree to sign them even though one person may be disadvantaged
- What you can or can’t do in a divorce with a lousy prenup
- The real benefit in a good prenup
- How mediation can be used to revisit a lousy prenup
- Spousal support, prenups, and inherited money
- Spousal support is part of the equity in a marriage
- People’s relationship to money and how it affects relationships
- How bad prenups make the marriage weak
- What Promissory Estoppel is and how it affects spousal support
- How a postnup can correct a lousy prenup
- Enforceability of prenups
- On-line prenups
- How a good prenup is organized, approached, negotiated, and well thought out beyond the existing assets
- How to respond if you’re “given” a prenup to sign
- How a prenup is “fair” to both people
- What “lifestyle” provisions are that would end a marriage
#nofaultdivorce #prenup #prenups #postnup #promissoryestoppel #mediation #communityproperty #separateproperty #inheritance #TheGenerousPrenup #author #marriage #divorce #enforceability #podcast #spousalsupport #alimony #childsupport #statelaws
Biography
Laurie Israel is a collaborative lawyer and mediator based in Massachusetts. She is the author of “The Generous Prenup: How to Support your Marriage and Avoid the Pitfalls” (2018). Laurie now concentrates her practice on prenups, and has been mediating prenups and postnups in Massachusetts as well as throughout the U.S. She has written extensively on prenups and on the art and skill of mediating prenups, which she believes is the optimal way to help couples mutually address the terms of a prenup and how they may affect each of the parties in the future.
Laurie began her involvement in the area of prenups as a representative for clients negotiating their agreements. She has experienced first-hand how couples can harm each other during the negotiation process in a way that may not easily be forgotten. Laurie believes that if not dealt with in an equitable manner, the content and process of some prenups can do irreparable damage to a couple embarking on marriage. The message in her book “The Generous Prenup” is that prenups are not to be taken lightly and should be used only when absolutely necessary, and when both parties are comfortable with the entire process. She believes the professionals involved should be keenly aware of the issue of fairness to both parties and consider the ultimate health of the ensuing marriage.
Twitter @laurieisrael
Facebook https://www.facebook.com/LaurieIsraelAuthor/
Mediate.com https://mediate.com/author/laurie-israel/
Huffington Post https://www.huffpost.com/author/lisrael-911
Wednesday Apr 19, 2023
Wednesday Apr 19, 2023
On this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast you will learn the following:
- The three programs Vicky has that address both managers and employees during the divorce and after: Manage Right; Plan Right, Resolve Right
- The special services available for specific needs of some divorcing couples, like a special needs child.
- The importance of testing for special needs children that must be addressed in the divorce.
- The Divorce Right services include Coaches, Lawyers, Therapists, Clergy, Culture Specialists, LGBTQ specialist, Immigration specialists, Career Coaches.
- Divorce is the number one reason women find themselves in poverty after divorce.
- What can a manager or business owner do to manage their own emotions during divorce.
- Lawyering Up can bring you down, and the pointlessness of this approach.
- The importance of guidance and direction from a support team to bring sanity and emotional grounding.
- Work performance suffers a 40% loss in productivity because of divorce.
- The 5 signs of divorce distraction at work: Absences, presenteeism, emotional outbursts, errors
- Family Transition Policy for companies to help divorcing employees.
- Fear of being fired forces employees to quit rather than be fired. Feeling unsupported by their companies. Can’t afford affordable housing near work. Affordable child care available at work or near work.
- Create a company culture of Respect, Empathy, Compassion.
#divorce #divorcesupportteam #careercounselors #therapist #divorcecoach #lawyer #attorney #mediator #mediation #productivity #lostproductivity #company culture #respect #empathy #compassion #immigration #culturespecialists #guidance #direction #emotionalgrounding #emotion #emotionalsupport # fear #childcare #daycare #affordablechildcare #affordabledaycare #absenteeism #presenteeism @VickyTownsend @PattyMcGuire
Biography
Vicky Townsend is the President and founder of Divorce Right, Inc., a professional development and employee assistance program company.
Vicky is also the co-founder of the National Association of Divorce Professionals, an association for all the licensed professionals that work with clients before, during, and after divorce.
Wednesday Apr 12, 2023
Wednesday Apr 12, 2023
On this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert podcast, you will learn the following:
- What it means to be Child-Centered in a Divorce
- Children feel a sense of responsibility in the break-up of the marriage
- How parents grieve the break-up of the marriage and put their children at the forefront of the divorce at the same time
- The importance of a support team for parents to help them go through the grieving process: Mediator, Divorce Coach, Therapist
- Choose lawyers who are child-centered, not aggressive attorneys, even if you have a high conflict, bullying attorney
- What to tell the children regarding the divorce; how to tell the children about the divorce
- The divorce can be a model for positive change for the children
- The biggest fear of children of a divorce, and how to change that fear
- How to reinforce hope for the children
- Parental Alienation: What it is, how it starts, and the long-range effects on the children
- Co-Parenting Schedules
- How to work with different parenting styles
#divorce #co-parenting #child-centered #child-centereddivorce #divorcesupportteam #parenting #divorcecoach #therapist #therapy #grief #change #parentalalienation #fear #children #co-parentingschedules #parentingstyles #hope #attorneys #bullyattorneys #highconflict #disciplinarybehavior #datingafterdivorce #author #certifieddivorcecoach @RosalindSedacca @JudithWeigle
Rosalind Sedacca, CDC is a Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach, recognized as The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce. She is the founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network which provides valuable resources for parents who are facing, moving through or transitioning after a divorce. She is also the author of How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children – with Love! and co-host of Divorce, Dating & Empowered Living Radio Show & Podcast. Rosalind is an expert blogger for numerous divorce, parenting and dating websites and blogs. Rosalind’s books, courses and programs for divorced parents and singles starting over can be found at her websites: www.childcentereddivorce.com, www.womendatingafter40.com, www.womendatingrescue.com and www.mensdatingformula.com.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ChildCenteredDivorce
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/rosalindsedacca
YouTube: youtube.com/@RosalindSedacca
Twitter: https://twitter.com/RosalindSedacca
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosalindsedacca/
Wednesday Apr 05, 2023
Wednesday Apr 05, 2023
On this episode of THE Amicable Divorce Expert, you will learn the following:
- The difference in grief during and after divorce
- What emotions come after divorce
- How to determine your new persona after divorce
- How to get unstuck in the process of divorce and after divorce
- How important the grief process is in cleansing the emotions from the hurt of divorce
- How to consider your true purpose in life
- How to transfer Mom Skills to outside work
- A peek at Special Needs Children and the demands made on the parents
- The military vs. challenging marriages and obedience
- How to tell if you’re in an abusive marriage
#grief #divorcegrief #abuse #abusivemarriage #emotions #lifepurpose #complexkids #specialneedschildren #obedience #author #divorcerecoverycoach #podcast @keenacrowley @judithweigle
Eykiena Crowley US Army Veteran, Divorce Recovery Coach | CEO My Thriving Life Academy
Eykiena “Keena” Crowley is a Divorce Recovery Coach, International Speaker, Published Author of A Superwoman’s Guide to Recovering After Divorce, and Influencer. This Combat Army Veteran and Former Social Work Therapist now uses her experience and training to lead the masses to their greatness by using their inner gifts to elevate to their blissful life.
As the Chairwoman of the My Thriving Life Academy, her firm’s courses, events, and results-based coaching & consulting programs empower divorced women to use their gifts to have a fulfilled life on their own terms. From her one-on-one coaching, group training events and online seminars, she helps the masses significantly shift their lives.
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